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Never Give Up
The Process of
Self-Initiated Recovery
Peter R. Ramig, Ph.D.
A first step in
the recovery process is facing the realization
that our stuttering is unlikely to magically disappear on its own. We must
come to grips with the fact it will take some perseverance and determination
to change the way we have stuttered over the years. Although this may sound
difficult or impossible at first, constructively working at changing
stuttering often demands less effort and frustration than continuing to fear
it. We expend enormous energy in attempts to hide it, and/or push and force
through it. And this increases the feelings of helplessness in the wake of
its presence.
Because we are convinced that stuttering can be changed with
determination and self-initiated effort, I want to briefly outline, on this
Web site, some
additional factors we can use in our efforts to weaken and even completely
undermine stuttering .
Understand the Physical
Speaking Process
Producing speech is a highly complex process. However,
paying attention to how we physically use our tongue, lips, and voice box
as we produce sounds can help us understand how we often create more
stuttering. We do this by tensing and forcing these structures as we
attempt to deal with the unpleasant moments of stuttering. Of course these
speech structures consist of muscles that need to be tensed to a normal
degree in order to produce fluent speech.
In contrast, however, people who stutter often tense
these muscles excessively, block, and then push forcibly to
"break" through the block in their urgency to release themselves
from the feeling of being stuck. This pattern develops over time as a
reaction to the little understood core cause(s) of stuttering, or what
some of us refer to as the "stuttering trigger." In essence, the
stuttering trigger is the present cause of stuttering. It may be
associated with the inherited predisposition to be dysfluent that is found
in the small percentage of the population who stutter. But that doesn't
mean it can't be dealt with.
Once we begin to pay attention to our speech
structures, we can better understand how we interfere with their normal
functioning during stuttering. As we further develop and refine
these monitoring skills, we will not only produce easier forms of
stuttering, but we will become more fluent as we are less likely to
"pull the stuttering trigger."
Not to Recoil From
Stuttering -- Instead, Move Forward
Once we understand the importance of eliminating much
of the pushing and forcing in our tongue, lips, and voice box, we can
begin to stutter more audibly and effortlessly by holding on to the
stuttering moment while moving forward to the next sound.
When we work at stuttering audibly, we are better able
to turn on and continue our air and voicing: two of the primary
ingredients necessary for the production of normal speech. In contrast,
due to the embarrassment and frustration often associated with stuttering,
many people who stutter have learned to block silently at the tongue,
lips, or vocal cords and/or recoil repetitively from their blocks and
other dysfluent moments.
Attempting to speak in this manner interrupts both the
flow of air and the necessary voicing created by vibrating vocal cords.
This common process of trying to conceal and minimize the audible
stuttering actually complicates speaking and over time, often increases
the visibility and severity of stuttering.
Keeping
the air and voicing turned on when we stutter takes time and practice at
first because we are forcing ourselves to confront something that feels
and sounds unpleasant and abnormal. Yet it is a necessary step in the
process of learning to stutter in a forward fashion.
Pay Attention to Feeling How and
Where Your Lips, Tongue, and Voice Box Make
Specific Sounds
Once we have learned how the physical speaking
mechanism functions, and we have worked on lessening our recoil behaviors,
we can then begin to concentrate on how it feels to make the sounds and
words as we speak. The vast majority of people cue into the sound of their
speech as they talk. There is scientific evidence that auditory
"cues" can be a present cause of stuttering. In contrast, many
of us encourage people who stutter to focus on the "feel" of
speaking and less to listening to their speech.
Opening Your Mouth When
You Talk
In order to counteract the tendency to stifle mouth
opening as you talk, practice deliberate mouth opening as you repeat the
sequence outlined above. The tendency for persons who stutter to
"clench" or reduce mouth opening is a problem I find necessary
to address when working with many adolescents and adults. This
"clenching tendency" is actually reduced mouth opening that we
learn over time as a result of our anticipating difficult sounds or words.
This physical change in mouth opening (clenching) seems to result from the
process of "holding back" the stuttering.
In a Matter-of-Fact Manner, Acknowledge That You Stutter
We know that people who stutter often view their
stuttering as embarrassing and shameful. As a result of such perceptions,
we may shroud our stuttering in a "conspiracy of silence."
Unsurprisingly, family, friends, and co-workers know we stutter, and are
usually unsure of whether or not to maintain eye contact, look away, or
fill in the words, etc. Such uncertainty may create uneasiness and
discomfort in our listeners as well as ourselves.
However, much of the uneasiness and uncertainty
experienced by both of us can be significantly reduced by acknowledging in
an open and matter of fact manner that we stutter. For example, say
something as simple as, "By the way, I'm going to use this
opportunity to practice some speech techniques I've been working on
lately. This is not an easy chore, but I know you understand why it is
important for me to take this opportunity to practice as we speak."
This sample remark gives our listeners an opportunity
to ask questions about stuttering, a communication problem that many
people find intriguing. If we choose, it also gives us an opportunity to
talk about it and "gives us permission" to openly practice some
of the steps outlined in this chapter and throughout this book. Disclosure
is a proactive strategy that affords us the opportunity to address our
stuttering in a matter of fact and nonchalant manner. Doing so increases
our comfort level because we begin to view our problem in a more positive
light. This new perception eventually facilitates changing our view of
stuttering as the "shameful unmentionable."
Confront Stuttering By
Occasionally Inserting
Pseudostuttering in Your Fluent Speech
Many people who stutter cringe at the first suggestion
that they should occasionally purposely insert a prolonged or repeated
sound as they speak. Paradoxically, the voluntary insertion of mild, easy
"stuttering" can be helpful in your quest to lessen your fear
and apprehension of stuttering. Although you will hear yourself do this,
listeners are usually much less aware of what you are doing because your
voluntary dysfluencies are short and produced without excessive tension.
Those who are recovering from stuttering often cite this task as one that
helped them maintain their improvement during their recovery process.
Never
Give Up!
Changing stuttering
requires persistence and determination. However, our recovery process
actually demands less effort, struggle, and embarrassment than the
negative emotionality experienced when we live a life focused on hiding,
concealing, and fighting stuttering. Hiding or fighting requires a huge
amount of vigilance and surveillance, and this only tends to feed the
destructive stuttering cycle. We have known many people who stutter,
clients we have personally worked with and colleagues and professionals we
have learned from, who have made substantial gains in releasing themselves
from the handicapping grip of stuttering. Many have become so fluent that
most people are unaware they sometimes still stutter.
This was our dream. This was their dream.
This can realistically be your dream.
Please
contact
us if you live in an area accessible to Colorado and would like to
learn more about stuttering recovery. We can also help put you in touch with therapy sources in other
areas, as well. |